Samantha Bridal Magazine

Keep the Fire Burning
My greatest achievement is making a good thing last. The love of a new relationship is clear-eyed and grounded. Neither of you could have dreamed up a more wonderful scenario. Everything just looks perfect, you are now married to the man or woman you love so deeply and you will be together for life!

This is reality, simply take it in and relish in the thought of having no other purpose than that of being together for life. You have created a marriage, and it is good, so good in fact, that you practically live on it.

You are enjoying the easy stillness, a kind of eloquent silence where both of you are content and comfortable even in silence. You have indeed captured true love! What next? When you think of some negative phrases often used like “Good things don’t last” or “it is too good to be true” Is it possible for
one to make a good thing last a lifetime? My response is “Yes, find ways to make your love last a lifetime”.

We all live different lives but here are some obvious but so often ignored tips to assist you in your journey to greater success.

Share Everything: Do not just dream of building a soulful union, but use a concrete devise for creating a bond to make your love invulnerable. We all get inspired and refreshed by different things because no two persons are identical but once married sacrifices should be made to consider and accommodate each other.

If one of you likes something (there must be something to like in it - and the other must find it!) Whether music, athletics, golf or an interest in Formula One (in my case), share every single thing either of you likes.

These are the things that link couples together. Having the same interests makes couples so close that it becomes unthinkable for either of you to ever recreate such closeness with anyone else. Total sharing, I believe, is the ultimate secret of a love that will last forever. As often as possible,talk about your relationship and evaluate your activities by checking whether all is at its best with your partner. Create a shield to protect your love.

We all know couples who took love for granted and saw the soul of their marriage perish. By ceasing to do things together and finding separate interests, couples turn “we” into “I” as their love becomes lifeless. But is it really possible to guard against losing the glory of love? Is it within the realm of human capability to keep love always protected from harm? And even if it were, is love enough to sustain a marriage? The answer, in my opinion, is no.

How glorious the beginning of a lifelong love is, when you and your partner make a dramatic public declaration concerning your love. It seems entirely natural to dedicate oneself to this love totally, for the rest of your life to the pursuit, exploration, testing, enjoying and continual renewal of this love. We all enter marriage very confident that our union will not only survive but thrive. Our confidence is bolstered by our love. But here’s the kicker: no couple can completely guard their love against the circumstances of life that conspire to diminish it. What’s more, love by itself is seldom sturdy enough to support a couple when
their marriage is challenged by bad things.

Love, while being a good catalyst for marriage, cannot sustain it without the assistance of four other essential components. For a marriage to flourish for a lifetime, love must work hand in hand with honest open communication, firm commitment, regular forgiveness and sincere empathy.

gets better. Many things do improve because When we are in love, we sometimes cling to the sentimental romantic notion of love expressed in songs, movies and novels. It can lead us to believe a destructive marital myth that says: Everything good in this relationship should get even better after the wedding. But the hard truth about life is that not everything of marriage, but others actually become more difficult.

Another kicker - for starters, marriage means coming to terms with new limits on your independence. It means giving up a carefree lifestyle. And even for people who hate to be alone, marriage still becomes an invasion of privacy. Love asks for everything, but how hard it is to give everything! Indeed, it is impossible. We are held back by busy schedules, by words we wish we could take back, by an innate tendency to look out for our own good rather than our mate’s. We can declare our undying love dramatically at a wedding ceremony, but that is just a start, a mere statement of intention.

Acting on that declaration takes more than love. A marriage will grow and thrive when both partners nurture their love with these four elements. Work at open communication, even when you are tired, hurt or angry. Reaffirm your commitment through words and actions, even when the warm feelings of romantic love seem nothing more than a dim memory. Freely admit your mistakes and actively ask for and grant forgiveness.

I realized that it’s impossible to understand forgiveness without forgiving. It is impossible to understand grace and hold a grudge. A vow of silence kills love. Put yourself in your mate’s place to understand the struggles and challenges that he or she faces. No marriage can remain healthy when love is not renewed and enhanced by these four essential components.

Use your love for each other as a foundation on which to build a complete relationship and you will enjoy a great reward. Your marriage will overcome the setbacks and will remain very good. Sometimes it takes a big blow-up to remind us of the things that really matter – Don’t wait too long -
God Bless