How do you go about purchasing the perfect anniversary gift for your husband? I’ll tell you.
But first, let me preface it with a quick personal story.
I didn’t buy my wife a ring. Well, at least not before the wedding. Here’s what happened.
We had a budget for the wedding. And as is the case with most weddings, the costs far exceeded the budget. So I had to make some cuts. I should’ve got a cheaper photographer. Or a cheaper DJ. Because both of those suppliers were really crappy. But I instead paid for everything and left out the rings.
My fiancé was heartbroken.
As daft as it may sound, I didn’t see it coming. And by it, I mean her disappointment. We men can be very emotionally stunted sometimes.
Why was she upset?
Because my actions showed I had chosen those suppliers over her. Something I doubt I would have forgiven had it been the other way round.
Long story short, we agreed to buy fake rings for the wedding. Then the following week I spent my entire business revenues on buying the rings.
Because I understood my mistake. I understood that actions speak louder than words. Anyone can say the words “I love you.” But not everyone will sacrifice and put their money where their mouth is.
What does this have to do with the best anniversary gift for your husband you ask?
Here’s the thing. Your purchase will tell him more than any words that could ever come out of your mouth.
If you’re earning over Kshs. 100,000 a month and you get him socks, that may end up feeling disrespectful and thoughtless to him. Whichever way you spin it. Gift-giving can be hard, I know. They say it’s the thought that counts. But in truth, it’s the sacrifice that counts. Because human beings are not ignorant about emotional issues. They can tell when they’re being dealt the short end of the stick.
You’ve got to go with something well thought out. And here’s 2 ways you can do it.
- Watch him closely and get him something you know for a fact he’ll like.
Does he love electronics and gadgets? Do your research on the one he’s coveting and save up for it. Does he like to dress up in fancy jackets? Get your king the best of the best.
Two things are bound to happen.
- First, he will outshine his peers.
- Secondly, those same peers will marvel at just how well you, his wife, are taking care of him.
Whatever the case may be, please do your research on him first. A big mistake we all tend to make with gift-giving is getting the person what we think is best for them, rather than what they truly desire. Try your level best to understand him. Understands what he really wants. And focus only on that. The time you spend trying to understand him better will also lead to a better relationship. And that’s a wonderful side effect to have.
Alternatively, if you are extremely busy, you could go with option number 2.
2. Hire a personal shopper.
Personal shoppers are a real asset. They are essentially the wedding planners of gift-giving. If you’ve ever planned a wedding on your own you know how difficult it can be. Wedding planners lighten your load tremendously. And personal shoppers do the exact same thing by offering a few major advantages.
- They already have a database of trusted vendors they’ve built over the years so you do not have to worry about quality control issues.
- Their experience within the gifting industry means they are quite likely to understand exactly what would make your husband feel loved and cherished.
- They do for you all the hard work of driving around and gift shopping on your behalf. This frees you up of the hassle and stress of gift shopping. And we all know what they say about a happy wife.
I’ve had lovely experiences with gift shoppers. My personal favorite was Zuida’s Bow Gift Boutique, whom I discovered through a newspaper article. If I had to list all of Zuida’s good traits we’d be here for 48 hours straight. Therefore I won’t go into detail within this article. However, if you’re looking to gift shop for your man and have no clue where to start, I’d definitely recommend them.
So there you have it, ladies. If his love languages are acts of service or receiving gifts, then as his woman you’ve got to feed him the fuel he needs. It’s part of the reason you’re the best wife in the world.
So please don’t make the same mistake I made. Make it good. And make it count.
Celebrate your love with the respect and sacrifice it truly deserves.
Cheers and God bless.