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An open letter to Kenyan brides.

Let me start with a disclaimer. This post is written by a man. A man with a huge amount of experience in fashion, but a man nonetheless.

So I will not pretend to understand what it feels like to be a woman. I won’t try to act like the importance of the big day holds the same weight for men as it does for women. I’m told you ladies have been dreaming about your wedding day since you were teenagers. The only thing I was dreaming about as a teenager was losing my virginity. So we’re obviously different.

However, there are a few friendly suggestions I would like to make. The keyword here is friendly. Suggestions that I feel would improve the wedding experience for both you and everyone involved.

Now, if you agree with some of these suggestions, fantastic. Take them and improve your wedding. If you don’t, please go back to my first statement and re-read my disclaimer. I have to put a link to my website at the end of this post, and the last thing I need is a bunch of angry Godzilla brides hunting me down at my shop. We don’t do that here. Kenyans lost all flimsy reasons to hate each other after the handshake.

Let us proceed.

Please learn a little colour theory before picking your wedding colours.

Basic colour theory knowledge really helps. It helps you determine which colours will go together nicely. So what that does is, a group photo ends up looking very nice because of the way the colours rhyme. Let me show you with the aid of an example.

There are three neutral colours. Grey, white and black. Because they are neutral colours, every other colour matches well with those colours. Also, if you have a colour in mind, a good look more often than not is to simply to go with a different shade of the same colour for colour number 2.

Those picturesque looks have been created with very basic knowledge of colour theory. Very basic.

The problem is when y’all pick out your colours, you think, “What’s my favourite colour? Pink. What’s my second favourite colour? Green. Let’s go with pink and green!” Then you end up with the type of disasters I can’t showcase here for fear of being sued. And while we’re on the topic of colour.

Why so complicated?

Picture this. You come up with a fancy colour and let the committee and bridal party know. Ballet slipper pink with a hint of Shamrock green. Yes, those are real colours. I did not come up with any of them out of thin air. It sounded like I did though, right? I had you looking at your screen all puzzled for a few seconds there. Welcome to our world.

Anyway, some poor soul is tasked with shopping around for the colour scheme. She finds it. Then takes a picture and sends it on WhatsApp. It looks different. Of course, it does. There’s a reason why online selling of clothing has never taken off. Things look different in a picture than they do in real life. Ask the millions of men and women who have attempted dating through Tinder.

But we can’t go back and use your description to clarify the actual colour because, in an attempt to sound and look sophisticated, you ended up not being clear. I’m not saying you shouldn’t use complicated-sounding colours. All I’m saying is that you should try to keep it as simple as humanly possible. Chocolate brown is fancy-sounding yet still simple. We’ve all eaten chocolate and can therefore picture it. Tawny brown with a hint of cedar is just you looking for a fight somewhere down the road. And speaking of looking for a fight.

Why do that to them?

Your bridesmaids love you. They’re there for you. Your ride or die sisters. So why reciprocate that by forcing them to wear those cheap shiny things that they will throw away 5 seconds after the wedding? Again for fear of my safety I would never showcase examples here. But you all know exactly what I’m referring to. I get it. It’s the tradition. It’s the way things have always been done. However, this is 2020 for goodness sake. You can have them looking very good in dresses that they can wear long after the wedding. Get creative. It’s your wedding. Your personality. Why limit it to copying what everyone else is doing?

And by the way, a bunch of them are single. Please help them look stunning and beautiful for all the quality single men in attendance. We like it when they look hot and classy. You’re not helping their cause by covering their gorgeous bodies in a horrible cheap fabric and super common style simply because you saw some resembling picture online.

And lastly.

You’re the host, not the guest. Know the difference.

Picture this. It’s a Sunday. You and your man take the kids out to the amusement park as you sit down and whisper romantic things into each other’s ears. You pay for the kids to play with the swings and you keep a close eye on them from afar. What you do not do is force them to sit down with you and talk. Why? Because it’s very apparent that even though you are in charge, what’s important to you is not what is important to them. Even though you are all sharing the same experience, at the same time, within the same venue.

A wedding is exactly like that. It’s a party and you are the organizer and host. What’s important to us as the guests are the food, music and that we dance and have fun. So if you want people reliving that day in their minds, ensure you invest in quality catering, good music (DJ/band) and an MC who will guide us and help us have fun. I always find it funny when a bride skips the MC and overspends on the décor. We don’t remember the décor in that instance. We just sit around bored waiting for that wedding to end so that we can go home and watch Netflix.

That’s not to say you shouldn’t spend money on décor. Please always ensure the place looks as grand and as pretty as possible. The beauty of the event will put everyone in a positive state and help them enjoy themselves more. What I am saying is that you shouldn’t skimp on what’s important to your guests and expect positive reviews. I’ll reiterate. It’s a party. You’re the host. If you truly didn’t care about the enjoyment of your guests, you’d be getting married at the AG’s office.

Article by Peter Okatch. King Maker at King Sidney.

5 unique wedding suits & tuxedos for the Kenyan groom

There’s a breed of men out there who are in love with quality and uniqueness.

You can see it in the way they handle their business. It’s evident in the way they carry themselves. It shines through in the women they choose as partners. Men who do not follow the masses. Men who bring their A-game when the occasion calls for it.

I like to call these men kings. They’re the reason I set up the brand in the first place. And when a King is having a wedding, he tends to show both his queen and the rest of the world, just how exceptional his sense of style can be. Essentially showcasing his power through his wedding tuxedo or suit.

So without further ado, let’s dive into 5 unique wedding tuxedos and suits fit only for the Kenyan king.

  1. The leather trim wedding tuxedo.

unique wedding suit Kenya

Built from high-quality materials that include real leather and mohair wool, this wedding tuxedo is ideal for the more traditional, perhaps older, gentleman. It’s a refreshing twist on an age-old classic design. Inasmuch as the wow factor on this piece may not be as high as the other wedding jackets on this list, its versatility is apparent. Pair it up with a white shirt, you’re a suave looking groom. Pair it up with a black shirt, you can send off someone you lost with the respect they deserve.

 

  1. The lurex pick stitch wedding tuxedo.

black wedding tuxedo kenya

Craftsmanship at its very best is a thing of beauty, and this wedding tuxedo perfectly encapsulates that. If you’re the type of gentleman who just has to wear a traditional suit for your big day then this one is for you.

  1. The showstopper wedding tuxedo.

Very unique wedding tuxedo Kenya

The cream of the crop. This masterpiece of a wedding tuxedo is guaranteed to have jaws dropping and eyes widening in amazement at the sight of you. Crafted from Italian brocade, this is the ultimate party jacket. One that will serve you on multiple special occasions for years to come.

  1. The A-list wedding tuxedo.

a-list blue wedding tuxedo

Details such as a silk-wool blend fabric and a black leather lapel set this piece apart from most wedding tuxedos. The versatility of this tuxedo means that it can be worn both to your wedding as the groom as well as to your friend’s wedding as a wedding guest.

  1. The hand-painted savannah wedding tuxedo.

unique hand-painted wedding tuxedo

For the bold gentleman not afraid to showcase his unique personality. This hand-painted masterpiece of a tuxedo is likely to cause a few standing ovations. Just be careful not to outshine the bride with this one.

Unique wedding ideas part 1: The Groom

Let me tell you a not-so-well-kept secret. As a man, I wasn’t necessarily too excited about my wedding. At least not initially.

And I definitely didn’t have any fun whatsoever with the process of planning it. Planning it was very hectic. It let to fights in the relationship. Raising money for it was a nightmare. And I was extremely nervous towards the end as the day approached. Because despite all the planning in the world, you can’t really tell which supplier will actually show up and whether or not they will come with the quality of services they promised at their office. It’s a real hit and miss game with some of those suppliers.

I went through a range of emotions, excitement definitely wasn’t one of them.

At least not until I tried my wedding jacket on about 2 weeks prior to the big day. I can’t really describe the feeling, but I’ll go ahead and try.

Unique Kenyan wedding ideas for the groom

“This must be what Tony stark feels like when he converts into Iron-man,” I thought to myself. There’s truly levels to this game because I felt a power I’ve never felt before. Like I could conquer anything. Any nerves that I had disappeared on the spot. I felt really, really strong. And the reason I think I felt that way is not because of how good I looked. Although I did look good. It led to some good times between the fiancé and I immediately she saw me in it if you know what I mean.

No that wasn’t it. It was because of how different I looked. In a good way, of course. I’ve always been a fan of unique, well-crafted items. I believe we all are to some extent. Which, I suppose, is why luxury exists.

We initially hate the price, but soon come to understand that it’s an investment in ourselves as we begin to admire the effort and craftsmanship that has been put into ensuring we feel like Kings the second we slip on the item. And make no mistake about it, I really did feel like a King. I don’t think I’ve ever felt such a jolt of self-confidence in my entire life. Immediately I wore it, it transformed me into a new me and showed me all the potential I had not previously seen in myself. That jacket had me going to the gym the very next day.

I apologize. I got carried away as all those good memories came flooding back. The reason for this post was actually is to go ahead and highlight why a unique wedding jacket for the groom makes so much more sense, from a financial perspective.

Rather than get carried away again, I’ll wrap things up and quickly explain what the post was about in the first place with the aid of the following short video.

Article by Peter Okatch. King Maker at King Sidney.

Men don’t dress for women, they dress for success.

Men do not dress up for women, they dress up for success. And when I say ‘dress up’, I mean put on a show and go for the very best in terms of their outfit.

Yes. I’m the same person who wrote an article on men not taking their dressing seriously when it comes to dates with women, and another one on how to dress to attract quality women at a wedding, but please, hear me out for just a bit.

Those posts got me thinking.

As a man, if you’ve been single in the past or are single now, you will encounter an interesting observation. You don’t have to be dressed like a superstar to attract quality women into your life. I’ve had women fall in love with me after seeing me walk to and from the shop every morning as I went out to make my daily purchase of brown bread. Or women I’ve met at the gym who always saw me dressed in nothing but a worn-out gym t-shirt and baggy sweat pants.

As a matter of fact, even on the first date with a prospective future girlfriend, it’s usually best to keep it simple and be comfortable rather than rock a fancy dinner jacket and look like you’re trying too hard to impress her.

Now, I’m not saying that men shouldn’t dress up to attract women. A unique sense of style is a powerful attraction force. What I am saying is that most of them don’t. Because deep down they know it’s not the determining factor in whether or not women will fall for them.

Are their men who like to dress up and color-coordinate their outfit at every turn? Yes. I’m one of them. Every chance that I get to dress up and showcase a very unique personal brand is one I will take. I’m not gay, but I will match colors even when dressed in an outfit as simple as a polo shirt, jeans, and smart casual shoes. Grey and black? What is this, a halfway funeral outfit? I’m not wearing that.

There are a few of us like that, but not most men. No. Men dress up to the nines when their dress code/sense of style is a determining factor in their success. And that generally tends to happen in one of two scenarios.

When it’s imperative that they impress their customer.

Not a customer in the traditional business sense. Here’s my definition of the word customer. A customer is someone who either puts money directly into your pocket or whose positive impression about you will improve your life measurably in one way or another.

A doctor will dress up for his patients because his patients will use his look to judge how good he is at his job.

A professional will wear his absolute best outfit to an interview because he understands that the panel will be judging him the second he walks into the door.

An entrepreneur will look to make a huge impression in terms of his dress code for his most important customers. Particularly in his very first interaction with them. On this note, recently I’ve been fortunate enough to have my business grow to the point of getting meetings with the country’s top young stylish politicians, and I’ve found myself obsessing over my personal presentation. Facial hair, skin facial, jacket, shoes, designer cologne, the works.

Will a man make a major effort to dress up for a woman? Only if the woman satisfies the condition of being a customer. Not necessarily a romantic partner. A male banker meeting a far superior ranking female banker for a presentation will give his style a major upgrade.

Men up their game when they have a specific individual target in mind who has the power to improve their lives drastically.

That’s scenario number one. What’s the second scenario in which a man would bring his A-game?

In a social/group setting.

This one I believe is self-explanatory so I won’t spend much time on it. One of the best ways to showcase power and earn respect at a social gathering is through a unique and elevated sense of style.

A groom will want to be the best-dressed man at his wedding because the occasion requires it. In the same instance, a wedding guest will want to be the best-dressed man at the event so that he can attract the attention of all those high-quality single women.

And no, I’m not undercutting my initial point. He’s not dressing up for some random woman. He’s dressing up for success with women. The power in his sense of style will give him choice. Choice that will allow him to pick the best woman for him and not have to settle. A situation a lot of single men crave.

 

Article by Peter Okatch. Kingmaker at King Sidney.

You and your man; The Power couple

I was scrolling through my Instagram feed recently and came across this photo.

alfred mutua kenya

The thing that struck me about this photo was the effort to dress up by the lady and the lack of effort by the man. It immediately reminded me of a complaint I hear from a lot of Kenyan women.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I absolutely love governor Mutua. Plus I can’t tell what the context of the photo was. He could’ve been surprised while casually resting at home.

I’m not saying that governor Mutua is a lazy dresser. Not at all. In fact, here’s a picture of him putting in the effort.

power couple kenya

Not only is he well dressed for this one, they actually complement each other very well. All I’m saying is that the first picture was a perfect representation of what I’ve heard Kenyan women gripe about with regards to some Kenyan men and the way they dress for important functions as a couple.

Let’s take a look at another couple by comparison. Here’s an NFL American football star at an award show.

Notice how they complement each other really well with their color scheme of choice? Red, black and white. They look like a real power couple.

Now compare that, to the very first picture. No need to scroll up. Let me place them side by side for you.

power couples kenya

See the difference? There’s very little to no effort to the jeans outfit. A fact that is exacerbated by him standing next to someone who quite clearly took time to put in the effort.

As a man who sells men’s occasion wear, I get a lot of women complaining about the lack of effort by their men in the style department. Particularly on important couple-occasions. It can get really frustrating to spend hours getting ready and weeks picking out the right dress then a dude slaps on a plain shirt and worn-out blue jeans. Yes, the genders are different and men tend not to care about fashion as much, but Jesus!

And by the way as a man, I can tell you for a fact. No man would accept dressing up in a dinner jacket for a function he considers very important and then allowing his woman to wear jeans and a t-shirt. Yes, we love you and your curves in jeans and t-shirts, but it’s not happening, sweetie. Dress inappropriately for an important function and you will be left at home. Guaranteed.

Enough venting. Let’s talk about solutions. How do you as a woman get your man to make an effort and look even more attractive in your eyes? I wrote a detailed post here on how to upgrade your man’s wardrobe. In summary, take matters into your own hands and dress him up. If done tactfully, he won’t mind at all. He will actually encourage it.

Picture this. If you want to buy a car, you could either spend months learning all the details about the different models of cars, or you could walk into a showroom and use your instinct about people to tell whether the salesman is trustworthy, and then use the information he provides you with to make your purchase. The second option makes more sense right?

Now in the above example, you are the car salesman. Except in this case, the customer (your man) knows you, loves you, and trusts you. He doesn’t know or care too much about fashion. You do. So he’s looking to you for guidance in that department in pretty much the same way you submit to him as his wife for guidance on most other issues. So take charge of your department and own your space.

As his woman, it’s on you to discover his tastes and cater to them by shopping on his behalf. It’s time to remind everyone just how dashing the man you chose is capable of being.

 

Article by Peter Okatch – King Maker at King Sidney.

How to get him the perfect anniversary gift

How do you go about purchasing the perfect anniversary gift for your husband? I’ll tell you.

But first, let me preface it with a quick personal story.

I didn’t buy my wife a ring. Well, at least not before the wedding. Here’s what happened.

We had a budget for the wedding. And as is the case with most weddings, the costs far exceeded the budget. So I had to make some cuts. I should’ve got a cheaper photographer. Or a cheaper DJ. Because both of those suppliers were really crappy. But I instead paid for everything and left out the rings.

My fiancé was heartbroken.

As daft as it may sound, I didn’t see it coming. And by it, I mean her disappointment. We men can be very emotionally stunted sometimes.

Why was she upset?

Because my actions showed I had chosen those suppliers over her. Something I doubt I would have forgiven had it been the other way round.

Long story short, we agreed to buy fake rings for the wedding. Then the following week I spent my entire business revenues on buying the rings.

Because I understood my mistake. I understood that actions speak louder than words. Anyone can say the words “I love you.” But not everyone will sacrifice and put their money where their mouth is.

What does this have to do with the best anniversary gift for your husband you ask?

Here’s the thing. Your purchase will tell him more than any words that could ever come out of your mouth.

If you’re earning over Kshs. 100,000 a month and you get him socks, that may end up feeling disrespectful and thoughtless to him. Whichever way you spin it. Gift-giving can be hard, I know. They say it’s the thought that counts. But in truth, it’s the sacrifice that counts. Because human beings are not ignorant about emotional issues. They can tell when they’re being dealt the short end of the stick.

You’ve got to go with something well thought out. And here’s 2 ways you can do it.

  1. Watch him closely and get him something you know for a fact he’ll like.

Does he love electronics and gadgets? Do your research on the one he’s coveting and save up for it. Does he like to dress up in fancy jackets? Get your king the best of the best.

king sidney

Two things are bound to happen.

  • First, he will outshine his peers.
  • Secondly, those same peers will marvel at just how well you, his wife, are taking care of him.

Whatever the case may be, please do your research on him first. A big mistake we all tend to make with gift-giving is getting the person what we think is best for them, rather than what they truly desire. Try your level best to understand him. Understands what he really wants. And focus only on that. The time you spend trying to understand him better will also lead to a better relationship. And that’s a wonderful side effect to have.

Alternatively, if you are extremely busy, you could go with option number 2.

2. Hire a personal shopper.

Personal shoppers are a real asset. They are essentially the wedding planners of gift-giving. If you’ve ever planned a wedding on your own you know how difficult it can be. Wedding planners lighten your load tremendously. And personal shoppers do the exact same thing by offering a few major advantages.

  • They already have a database of trusted vendors they’ve built over the years so you do not have to worry about quality control issues.
  • Their experience within the gifting industry means they are quite likely to understand exactly what would make your husband feel loved and cherished.
  • They do for you all the hard work of driving around and gift shopping on your behalf. This frees you up of the hassle and stress of gift shopping. And we all know what they say about a happy wife.

I’ve had lovely experiences with gift shoppers. My personal favorite was Zuida’s Bow Gift Boutique, whom I discovered through a newspaper article. If I had to list all of Zuida’s good traits we’d be here for 48 hours straight. Therefore I won’t go into detail within this article. However, if you’re looking to gift shop for your man and have no clue where to start, I’d definitely recommend them.

Zuida's bow

So there you have it, ladies. If his love languages are acts of service or receiving gifts, then as his woman you’ve got to feed him the fuel he needs. It’s part of the reason you’re the best wife in the world.

So please don’t make the same mistake I made. Make it good. And make it count.

Celebrate your love with the respect and sacrifice it truly deserves.

Cheers and God bless.

The perfect Ruracio outfit for the groom-to-be

You have a Ruracio coming up. And if you’re being honest with yourself, it’s eating you up inside. A lot of things about the event are eating you up inside. It’s a chance for you to make a big impression with your future in-laws. And you don’t want to mess it up. First impressions matter. And you’re dead set on making one of the biggest impressions you’ve ever made in your life.

But how exactly will you accomplish such a fete? With your impeccable, sense of style, of course. You want jaws dropping and eyes widening with respect at the sight of you the second you walk into that room.

Now, you’re a man who loves quality and luxury. You appreciate the finer things in life. And nowhere is this more evident than within your wardrobe. They let you know that the color scheme for most Ruracios in Kenya is caramel brown. However, there’s no way you and your personality are going to wear that basic Ruracio cover-up. You know the one I’m referring to. This thing right here.

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Absolutely no way. Hapana. Never ever. There’s nothing wrong with it. It’s just not you. Where are you going with all those beads? In your mind, there are a couple of disadvantages to the above item. Namely:

  • You will never ever wear it again anywhere else. And inasmuch as it’s cheap, that’s essentially money thrown away. And as my grandfather always used to say, it’s better to invest Kshs. 50,000 than it is to throw away Kshs. 5,000.
  • You will look like every other guy in every other Ruracio event. So much for being a suave gentleman with an incredible sense of style.

What if there’s another way? What if we could stick within the Ruracio color scheme of caramel brown and still manage to look like a King about to take his queen? Well, there is another way. You could rock an outfit like the one the gentleman builds in the video below.

The advantages of the above outfit are numerous. Namely:

  • Its money well spent because you have something you can wear for several other occasions for decades to come.
  • As stated in the video, you will look like a real superstar and impress not just your in-laws, but your fiancé as well. Two birds, one stone.
  • The self-confidence you will feel in the second outfit will help carry you throughout what would otherwise be a fairly nerve-wracking day.

So as you prepare for your Ruracio event, stay true to yourself and your sense of style. And ensure you give everyone at the event reason to never ever forget you. Ever.

Personalizing your ceremony

Amid the endless formalities and rigid rules, there are many ways to put your own personal stamp on this very special occasion. Each element of your wedding ceremony is an opportunity to express something personal and meaningful about your beliefs, relationship and your heritage. The most important day of your life should be a beautiful blend of your personality and your fiancé’s. After all, it’s that very combination that will mould your lives together. Below are just a few of the thoughtful ways you can express yourself on your wedding day. If you are planning a religious ceremony at a church or temple, be sure to discuss all ideas with your officiant.

1. Personalize Your Marriage Vows.
There are ways in which you can personalize your marriage vows to make them more meaningful for you. As with all your ceremony plans, be sure to discuss your ideas for marriage vows with your officiant. Make your wedding vows truly your own by reciting a favourite poem or reading to your groom. You may even choose to write all of your vows yourselves.

2. Light a family candle to symbolize your two lives joining together as one.
In most weddings, two taper candles (representing each family) are lit at the beginning of the marriage ceremony. The candle is often lit by both mothers (bride and groom) and another member of each family. These candles remain lit throughout the ceremony.

After the exchange of vows, the bride and groom use the family candles to light a larger pillar candle – the unity candle, symbolizing the emergence of a new family. Some couples choose to then extinguish the
family candles to emphasise the commitment they have just made. While others may keep them burning to symbolise the inclusion in each other families.

3. Incorporate poetry and/or literature into your ceremony readings.
There are a seemingly infinite number of poems, song lyrics, scriptures and other readings that you can incorporate into your ceremony. Start with personal favourites. If you love 19th century English novels, include an excerpt from one. Or you might ask the person you have chosen to read the scripture to surprise you with his own words. Just have him run it by someone you trust such as your maid of honour or parent to ensure that it is suitable.
As a general rule limiting the number of readings at the ceremony to no more than three or about minutes each. Discuss with your officiant the readings you would like incorporated into your ceremony.

4. Incorporate your family heritage into the celebration wherever possible.
One way to honour your past is to include traditions that reflect your families’ heritage. You need not limit yourself to the customs of your forebearers, however. Feel free to borrow from another culture that resonates with you.

27 Ways to Personalize Your Wedding

  1. Invite the groom’s parent to be part of the processional.
  2. Ask friends and family members to perform special readings.
  3. Change places with the officiant and face your guests during the ceremony.
  4. Release white doves or balloons into the air after being pronounced “husband and wife”.
  5. Burn incense to give the ceremony an exotic feeling.
  6. In the months before your wedding, create an “email- newsletter ” for the members of the wedding party, updating them on times and locations of specific events, and reminding them of their duties. Keep the mood light by disclosing your thoughts, as the day grows closer, and by including accounts of those funny little incidents that happen along the way.
  7. Plant a tree or a seedling on the day of your wedding to grow along with your marriage. With its reputation as the eternal flower of love, a rose bush is a perfect choice, or plant the sprig of ivy that you carried in your bouquet.
  8. Present your guests with favours as they leave the reception, such as a ribbon-tied package of sugar-coated almonds, representing the bitter and sweet of marriage, or a tulle sachet of fragrant potpourri. If the budget allows an even more personalized favour might be a Polaroid picture of each guest, snapped as they enter the reception.
  9. For a seated meal, mark each place with an elegantly engraved place card and menu.
  10. In place of a solid white tablecloth, consider using a coloured cloth or one made from the same fabric as your bridesmaids’ gown beneath a white lace overlay. Decorate napkins at each place in coordinating
    fabric ribbon.
  11. Embroider an elegant pillow for your ring bearer to carry down the aisle. Your names and the dates artfully stitched at the bottom will be a lasting reminder of your loving union.
  12. Fill the flower girl’s basket with petals from the flowers in your mother’s or grandmother’s garden.
  13. Incorporate your favourite music into the prelude before the ceremony.
  14. After you’ve selected your wedding rings, arrange to have them engraved with a personal message.
  15. Delight your parents, or his, with a nostalgic look back at their own wedding day. Surprise them by displaying their wedding portrait at your reception.
  16. Invite the clergy who knew you as a child to participate in the ceremony.
  17. For your first dance as husband and wife, have the band play the first song the two of you ever danced together or the song that was playing when he proposed to you.
  18. Give your attendants a silver frame engraved with your wedding date and later present them with a
    photograph from the day to proudly display inside it.
  19. Send your fiancé a romantic telegram /SMS/ even a handwritten note the morning of your wedding.
  20. Make it a family affair; include members of both your families in the wedding. Consider asking a brother or cousin to give an inspirational reading at the ceremony, making it a family affair.
  21. Make your favourite flower the centre of all the floral arrangements at the wedding and reception.
    Then set the mood in your new home by having similar arrangements delivered the day you return from your honeymoon.
  22. As an alternative to traditional bouquets, let your bridesmaids carry the flower of their choice. Tied with matching ribbons, the varied look will be colourful and refreshing.
  23. Hire a professional calligrapher to address your wedding invitations in a flowing, romantic script.
  24. Design an elegant printed program to pass to your guests before the ceremony begins. Include the order of service, your attendants’ names and perhaps a personal message of thanks from you two.
  25. Just before you enter the church, have the organist sound the chimes of the hour. Follow that with a trumpet salute as you begin your processional down the aisle.
  26. Take the time to select a romantic gift for the groom such as a book of poetry or an engraved silver pen.
  27. Compile a small photo album of favourite pictures from your courtship to surprise him with on your honeymoon.

A style guide for the wedding guest king

Gentlemen, you’ve received a wedding invitation in the mail. It will take place next Saturday at Windsor. Fantastic. Weddings are great events for goal-oriented men. For a couple of reasons;

  • If you happen to be single, a wedding is the ultimate social event for you as a man. It’s guaranteed to be full of quite a few beautiful single ladies. And nothing screams romance more than meeting your future wife at a wedding. The two of you will tell that story to your children forever.
  • Weddings are the perfect networking opportunities. Whether you’re an entrepreneur or in employment, a wedding of your peers is guaranteed to have the type of crowd that is ripe with opportunity.
  • Weddings, essentially, are parties. And if you’ve been having a rough time during the week, a wedding is the perfect place to unwind and relax with friends and family.

Now being the man that you are, I’ll presume that you fully understand the importance of making a powerful impression so as to take advantage of the above opportunities. Since you understand the why, let’s move into the how.

How exactly do you go about doing that? By dressing extremely sharp, of course.

And I’m not talking about wearing a suit. Suits tend to look extremely dull for functions such as weddings. You want to light up the event as soon as you stroll into the reception. But at the same time, you want to do it in a luxurious way.

Now, you’re probably thinking, “I’m a man. I’m not into fashion. Who has the time to start coordinating outfits? I have more important things to do. Like, make money.”

I feel you. But hear me out for just a second. You don’t have to be a fashion expert to look spectacular as a man. In fact, it’s easy to look like you have access to your own personal stylist.

Simply wear a single statement piece while keeping the rest of the outfit simple. That will help give the appearance of a sophisticated gentleman who’s not trying too hard. They call it the art of Sprezzatura.

Let me show you with the aid of an example. They say a picture is worth a thousand words. Well then, here’s a video worth ten thousand words.

Style is a portrayal of your unique personality as well as your values. If you’re a special gentleman who values quality, then those values should be on display within your outfit. Without you having to say a word. You won’t actually be able to say a word initially. You know what they say about first impressions.

An elevated sense of style will put bring more opportunities to the table and put more money in your pocket. Partly due to the newfound self-confidence you will feel. Mostly due to the impression you will leave on others.

So you’ve got to make the necessary investment in yourself. Not just in your clothes but in your shoes and fragrance as well. Take you’re a-game.

The idea is that heads will turn immediately you stroll into the event. And minds will never forget you once you leave.

 

Article by Peter Okatch. Kingmaker at King Sidney.

 

6 things a magnificent wedding jacket will do for you.

So you’re getting married. Congratulations. You’ve selected your future wife. And she’s perfect. It’s time now to select your wedding blazer as the groom. And it’s got to continue along the same lines of perfect selection that you’ve already begun.

Now if you’re like most men then you’re probably thinking, no big deal. I’ll slap on a suit and be done with it. However, if you’re not like most men, then that just won’t do. If you’re the type of gentleman that loves top-notch quality. The type that loves to look unique. The type that wants a jacket you’ll be able to wear on multiple special occasions after the wedding. Then you know deep down that there are certain major advantages to rocking a unique high-quality piece on your big day.

Let’s take a quick look at 6 of those powerful advantages.

  1. Self-confidence.

Let me tell you a quick story. I undertook my undergraduate degree at USIU-Africa. It’s a wonderful institution. I’d recommend it to anyone.

Now, in USIU we had group presentations where one would be required to go stand in front of the class and give a presentation of an assignment your group had been tasked with. My very first presentation was absolutely nerve-wracking.

I had never done any form of public speaking before. Standing in front of a class of 30 people was probably one of the most daunting things I’d ever done in my life up until that point.

As time went on I got progressively better. You should’ve seen me at my last presentation three and a half years later. You’d have been so proud. I had transitioned into a true public speaking master.

What’s the moral of the story? Standing in front of a podium at your own wedding can feel just as intimidating.

Only instead of the 30 classmates, you’ll be standing in front of over 500 people. Most of them strangers. An exceptional groom blazer from the wedding is just the adrenaline shot required to glide through the event.

The second you slip on the jacket in front of the mirror on the morning of the wedding, you’ll be so self-confident that you won’t care how many people will be watching. As a matter of fact, the more the merrier.

You’ll have them staring in admiration at your remarkable sense of style.

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2. Amplify attraction in your new wife.

You already have her. She’s yours. However, now is not the time to get lazy.

Anyone who has ever built a business from the ground up will tell you. The journey to becoming number one is very difficult. Then once you’re at the top, the struggle to stay there is even harder.

Relationships, in my opinion, are a bit like building a business.

What you achieved three years ago doesn’t mean much today. New day, new goal. And your new goal is to prevent long-term boredom and keep things fresh.

I recall during my wedding how proud my wife was of how good I looked. She couldn’t get enough of me. Just check out the look she kept giving me throughout the wedding. I knew I was in for fun times ahead.

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It had me thinking, “Let’s end this party quickly, this young lady and I have things to do.”

Months after the wedding, she would still occasionally bring up how handsome I looked on the day. And you know how we men are. We love compliments.

I actually feel like my wedding jacket set off our marriage in the right direction because she appreciated the effort I had put in to ensure that I showed everyone she made the right choice.

Speaking of everyone.

3. Blow away your in-laws and earn their respect.

An electrifying wedding jacket for you as the groom is the perfect way to inspire respect in your in-laws. And here’s why.

Your in-laws don’t know you. All they know about you is that their daughter has chosen you. Therefore, it’s this group that is most likely to judge you based purely on your appearance.

If you dress plainly in a plain suit, they’ll feel like there’s nothing interesting or refreshing about you. They’ll immediately begin to have doubts at the back of their minds.

However, if you step in with a unique groom blazer for the wedding, they’ll begin to understand why she may have picked someone like you over everyone else.

luxury garden wedding kenya4. Make your family proud.

Your in-laws won’t be the only family impressed by the seriousness by which you’ve taken the occasion. Your family will also be very proud of you for representing them in the right way.

My mum and I have an ordinary African mother and son relationship. That essentially means compliments are dished out once in a decade. Based only on very special accomplishments. So to hear my mum tell me I looked very good was probably the most gratifying thing I have heard in a long time.

It lifted my spirits through the roof. And which groom do you know who wouldn’t like their spirits lifted on their big day?

luxury wedding jacket for the groom

5. Inspire regret in the exes.

One or two of your ex-girlfriends might be in attendance. It’s a wedding, you can’t really block out anyone. A couple of her ex-boyfriends might also attend.

You want an aesthetic that has the ladies thinking, “How the heck did I let that one get away.” And one that says to her ex-boyfriends, “Look at that dude! I now see why I never really stood a chance.”

Inasmuch as you will not be dressing up for them, or with them in mind, it’s a nice side effect to have.

6. Inspire your groomsmen.

There’s a saying that goes something like this. “The best way to teach something is to be an example of it.”

Some of your groomsmen may not be particularly interested in gifting their girlfriends with a wedding. For whatever personal reasons. But as they file into your house in the morning and see both your aesthetic and your self-confidence, their minds will slowly begin to open.

The second they see you strut down the aisle looking like a billionaire in your wedding jacket, it’ll be a done deal. Expect an invitation to their weddings shortly after.

And the versatility of an ideal wedding jacket means you can wear the exact same blazer as a guest to their wedding. Whenever that will be, you’ll be ready.

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